Post-Separation Abuse rarely takes one shape. This is a short, private self-check: tick anything that's happened to you, and see which forms of it your experience points to.
This isn't about putting a label on what you have been experiencing. It's about helping you find the words for experiences that can be difficult to describe. it's a way of putting a name to what you've already lived through.
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When patterns are identified across two or more areas, they may indicate a wider pattern known as Post-Separation Abuse. Recognising the wider pattern matters because its effects can extend across different parts of a person's life, and responding effectively may require measures that address how those problems interact rather than dealing with each one in isolation.
Post-Separation Abuse describes patterns of abuse that continue or emerge after a relationship has ended. Different forms of abuse can be used separately or together to maintain control, cause harm or continue punishment after separation.
The Post-Separation Abuse Framework™ explains how patterns of behaviour involving money, legal processes, reputation, and physical and psychological harm can operate together. It also describes the tactics associated with each area and the objectives they may serve.